Not many men know themselves as well as you seem to. And if they do, even fewer would put it out there as boldly as you did.I don’t think you suck. I personally like a person who is brutally honest. I like to knkow where I stand with my friends,andI like saying exactlly what I feel.

I swear I’ll finish reading the post but all I see is you staring at my boobs.

Okay, here we go:

I’m going to tell you what I match:

1. Workaholic - yes.  I respond to security incidents and virus outbreaks.  It’s not saving lives, but it’s 24/7/365.  Anything in my personal life is *completely* dropped when these things happen.  My choice to fulfill this role.

2. Affection needy - yes and no.  I am affection needy if someone lets me be.  When my partner gives me the persistent cold shoulder I need nothing from him.  And I mean ice queen nothing.

3. Emotionally detached - sometimes.  And I never know when it’s coming.

. Eternally a Toys R Us kid - no.  I enjoy silly things, but I can’t spend hours at the toy store.  ADD sets in.  DVDs, books, blogging, and kitty time, please.

Understanding frustrated - heh.  Yep.  But I don’t think you’re an asshole from that situation.  Just misundastood. :D

No apologies, no regrets - no, yes.  I’m English, I apologize at the drop of a hat.  I left regret behind sometime at the end of 2006 or the start of 2007 and it has only crept back in twice since.  I quickly acknowledge it, understand why I’m feeling it, “fix” it or accept the situation, then move on.  It’s been pretty fucking awesome to leave regreat behind.  I hiiiiiighly recommend.

You don’t suck.  (And I don’t mean that in any other way than you’re not a bad person, dirty dawg.)

Heh, I typo’d regrets as regreats.  Perhaps a Freudian slip.  And I stopped numbering.  Who’s counting anyway?

I think that last paragraph actually shows that you are a “nice guy”.  That’s all it takes to be the guy that people can count on.  Doesn’t mean that nice guys don’t have their own problems and issues and worries.  It just means that they’ll take that extra second to do something that many people wouldn’t.

Ummmm… yeah.  You’re pretty fucking normal babe - hate to burst you’re I’m A Tough Guy bubble.

In fact, in many ways, you’re very similar to my husband - and he doesn’t have the PTSD or “people die when I’m at work” thing to justify any of it.

You’re just human.  With a penis.

Hard as you try Dawg, you’re just not that bad.

  That was the BAD stuff? I’d take your “bad” list over half the “good” guys I’ve dated in a heartbeat.

I agree with Britt on this one. You just blew that Tough Guy image all to hell.

You could easily be my hubbies double, with the PTSD and everything.

Sounds normal to me.  It’s not like you stated anything weird, odd or different from 9 gazillion other guys (and girls too.)

I think I might be the only woman in the world who is cool with a guy who works a lot.  Most women go all, OMG!  You’re never home and I’m so loneleeeeee!

Pshaw.

I think the only thing in there that would trip me up is all the hugging and stuff.  I can’t handle sitting on the couch and being all cuddley.  I think I show affection in other ways.  I’m big on words and my actions take the form of ‘taking care of’ rather than lots of smooches and hugs.  Except in bed.  Bed is definitely cuddle time.

I’m pretty sure you’re just Dawg… not “broken” or anything like that… we all have our differences and I think it’s pretty brave of you to look in the mirror and acknowledge them!

Ummm OK.  I fail to see the “bad” stuff in that list.  I’m with Britt on this one, you’re just not that bad sugar. 

:D

I am still waiting for the qualities you told us you would list… I mean, these are not nearly getting you out of the “nice guy” category! Pfftt!!!

Actually, my excuse is going to be that bourbon I drank last night.  wooooweeee I got fucked up on ONE cocktail mixing that shit with coke/pepsi.  And here I am moving to bourbon country LOL

Do you think you’d want a ton of cuddling and being hung all over when the ‘blush is off the rose?’ When you’ve been together for several years?

And what do you do if you actually get a cuddle chick and you don’t feel like cuddling and she does or vice-versa?

I want to know if you are all cuddle all the time and how much space do you need?

You are just complicated, I’m complicated too.  Doesn’t make us bad, it just means not everybody can take us on.

I see no reason for you to change who you are.  You know where you stand, and anyone that would get involved with you probably will figure it out, or not be in your life anymore.

Being a nice guy is good.  Don’t let anyone tell you different.

I have accepted you.  I think you are cute AND nice.  Don’t try talking yourself out of that one doll.

We all have our faults. You just seem to have your pinned down and identified a lot better than some of the rest of us. Yet you also know that you are okay the way you are, and that is inspiring.

No one is perfect Dawg and we all have our own issues and problems! It’s what makes each and one of us, us.

I know people with SO’s who wouldn’t do half the stuff you mentioned in that last paragraph! You ARE a nice guy.

They’re right Dawg, you do totally rock! I don’t see the cuddling part as out of the ordinary though. When spending long hours at work and away from your loved ones, the one thing I’ve always looked forward to is a warm hug and a big smile to help me put all of the days worries behind me. C’mon, because of work I’m all late and shit commenting

You’ll go shopping & sit outside the dressing room??? Dawg, if you’ll do that, there is NOTHING that can make you a not-nice guy. Sorry.

Thus The Asshole.
xoxo
The Stalker

Wow. We really do have a lot in common Dawg. When I get a job that I like (like this summer at that recreational group), I’m a huge workaholic, I won’t not go in even if my head is going to fall off. Granted, the people I work for (as in the true reason why I showed up each day) make it all the more worth while, but still.

I am totally affection needy, luckily my current boyfriend is just as down with cuddles as I am. My last boyfriend wasn’t, so he didn’t know how to handle me and I became really detached in our relationship and ended up leaving him for the current boyfriend, who is amazing.

I may not be a Toys R Us Kid, but I prefer to stay at home watching a DVD with the boy or reading a really good book rather then go out and party with the girls. I’m not much of a partier, and I only do so when I’m in the mood (which is rare and I usually force myself to show up so that I can form better friendships with people by actually hanging out with them and trying to relate).

I hate feeling misunderstood. I shut down too, and get really pissy. In my opinion, everyone should get me. I know this isn’t really fair, but hey. I’m not fair when it comes to being misunderstood

I try to live by the no apologies, no regrets rule, but when I know I’m wrong its easy for me to admit it. I would rather lose a battle then lose the person. I have so many regrets, not by what I’ve done but by what I didn’t do.

So ya. I get you yo! By the way, don’t throw cows at me!! 

P.S I find it ironic that the word entry has the word “friends” in it :D